I saw a term not too long ago that made me sad. That term was mantouching.
I never even realized there was a term for this. What it refers to is the sad fact that a large portion of men feel entitled to touch women. I had to sit and think about it for a moment. Does this really happen? Is it really as bad as it seems?
Yes, it does happen, yes, it is as bad as it seems. The short version is, nobody should ever touch anyone else without their permission period. Your body is yours and you should be the one who decides who comes in contact with it and who does not.
Men, we need to think before we do things. Especially when it comes to women. Women are one of many groups who have been struggling for equality. Unfortunately, part of that equality they have had to fight for is autonomy over their own body. How sad is that?
Men, I think it is time we stood up, did some self evaluation and started to behave in a more appropriate manner.
Sit and think for a moment. I am sure at some time in your life you have had someone touch you that you did not want to touch you. It does not feel good. It gives you that creepy violated feeling.
We need to be sure we are not creating that feeling in others. Think before you act. Think before you touch someone. Ask yourself some questions. Does this person want to be touched? Is this appropriate? Should I ask if I can touch them? What will I do if they say no.
People, not just men, we need to start thinking about how our actions effect others. We need to start thinking about the feelings we are evoking in others. Maybe that young lady does not want you to touch her hand. Maybe this lady doesn’t want your arm around her or your hand on her shoulder. Maybe that young man does not want a pat on the back.
It is very easy for us to forget that not all people have the same preferences we do. It is very easy for us to forget the things we do may evoke different and unpleasant actions in others.
Let’s all take a day and really spend some time analyzing how the things we do effect the world around us and make the changes that need to be made in our behaviors.
Peace, love, and happiness always,